Mother-in-Law Wants to Wear White to Wedding

We all know that at a wedding,
only the bride should wear white, right? Well, one bride to be is in her feelings
after a soon to be mother in law announced her plans to wear an off
white dress to her wedding. The bride posted to the site, MumsNet,
asking if she should confront her and risk coming off as a bridezilla or just play it
cool and act like it doesn’t bother her. So ladies, what advice will you give this bride to be?
>>Girl, clearly, that mom doesn’t like you anyway, so tell her how you feel.
>>[LAUGH] [APPLAUSE]>>Cuz who does that? I mean, you guys, that is a known thing. You don’t wear white to
someone else’s wedding. And I think that unless they’ve requested,
I’ve been to all white weddings, where everyone is supposed to wear white. But if they didn’t request you to wear
white, you’re not supposed to wear white. That’s low key rude on the mom, and
I think she don’t like you anyway.>>[LAUGH]>>I could see that.>>Just tell her.>>I guess, for me, personally, I don’t care. If it was my wedding day,
I’m gonna shine, baby. There’s no way-
>>Anyways.>>You in your little white dress. It’s gonna be like trying to stand
in front of me and my bat signal. There’s no way you’re gonna dull my shine. But when it comes to having a talk with
somebody, a mother in law, it’s just, I feel it’s weird to talk to somebody
about, could you not wear that? Because then I don’t feel as special and
you’re upstaging me. You know what I mean,
that conversation is so whack to me.>>This is not like the average Thursday, this is your wedding.
>>Yeah, but->>But it was like she said, she went off white, so it’s like-
>>It’s not a big deal.>>Yeah, I’m with you, Jeanie, I wouldn’t let someone ruin my day. If you wanted to do it, go on and
do it, but it’s still, I’m the bride.>>[APPLAUSE]>>It’s not gonna stand in front of your way.
>>But how would you have felt? Did anybody wear white at your wedding?
>>No, and I think it would depend on
the type of person she is. If she was always the type of
person to play the victim or wanted attention,
I would just not play that game. I would be like, whatever, do you. They’re gonna talk about you anyway. You’re gonna look crazy. But if she was really nice and
she didn’t have anything else to wear and she felt like she looked really, really
beautiful in that dress, I don’t know. I just would kind of just let it be.
>>Yeah, just let her live her life.
>>I personally didn’t say that anybody couldn’t wear white. I really didn’t care. You could wear whatever.
>>Right, so you wouldn’t care either?>>No, I wouldn’t care, but this person, this is bothering her. So I’m saying if it really bothers you and
it’s upsetting you, like I said, the lady don’t like you anyway. So you should be able to express your
feelings to her and just say hey, it’s my day, I kinda didn’t want
anybody else wearing white. I don’t care, personally, I think like
Jeanie said, if you’re so worried about that, you might even not be in the right
frame of mind for getting married. Cuz that’s not what marriage is about, is the dress color.
>>She nailed it.
>>[APPLAUSE]>>She nailed it, yeah.>>If you’re so worried about your mother-in-law’s dress color, and
that’s gonna mess up your day, then you’re not getting married for the right reasons.
>>Or you could just let her wear off white,
and you come in black. I mean, do something different.
>>[LAUGH]>>That’s what I think, but if it’s something that,
everybody’s different. There are people that are very traditional
that want things done a certain way. And if that’s the case, then I think you
should be able to voice your opinion.>>There are some rules though that are still there for no reason,
don’t wear white after Labor Day. I know this is different.
>>Yeah, I break that all the time.>>But there are women who are like, you’re not supposed to do that. You’re just not, or
wearing a little bit of color.>>Why? Who said that?
>>And that’s why it makes no sense. When there’s a wedding, remember the one time you actually
didn’t have your eyes on the bride? It’s hard to think that way.
>>But what if the mother in law is
helping to pay for the wedding? [LAUGH]
>>And you think that she [CROSSTALK]>>She can wear whatever she wants.>>Exactly. [LAUGH]
>>Girl, we’ll get two brides dressed as a two for
one special, okay?

100 Replies to “Mother-in-Law Wants to Wear White to Wedding

  1. I agree that you should defintely respect people enough to make the effort to give them the limelight and honour their requests. Your true friends will naturally want that for you on your wedding.

    BUT , just as a side note in general, your marriage should be more about your committment not frivolous details. I see so much over obsession with needing everything to be a certain way, it makes me wonder is the wedding serving love or the ego? Also, just because you're getting married doesn't make you more important than anyone else or override their right to authentic self-expression.

  2. I wore a black dress and my husband wore all black when we got married. My mother-in-law, Sister-in-law, sister, and my own mother all thought it was weird and "bad luck" but I wanted to do something different and so did my husband 😊

  3. Why did Adrianne change her opinion “it was low key rude on the Mum and she don’t like you anyway” clearly you think there is something wrong with it. You still also said “it’s not any Thursday, it’s your wedding day”… a bit contradicting hon. FOR ME no one will upstage me at my wedding period. And no one will be wearing white unless I state it.

  4. if she was clearly doing it to be petty, i would probably say something about her character but otherwise i dont really care about that particular tradition

  5. I'm sorry but no you shouldn't be wearing white or any form of the color to someone else's wedding. That's just the unspoken rule that everyone should follow. Especially the mother of the groom. It's not even about the fact that it's white it is the fact that the MIL thinks it's okay to disrespect her daughter in law like that.

  6. I'm just old fashioned and I feel uncomfortable with it I had one of my closest friends ask me to wear one of my show choir dresses to her wedding which was a Christmas white and all I heard was my grandma in my head saying there are two colors you do not wear to a wedding white and black and I just couldn't I respectfully told her no

  7. I never knew that and I wore an off-white gown to my first wedding I attended as an adult (20). Lol I learned that lesson the hard way

  8. This is why my fiancé and I aren’t even going all out for a wedding. We are just happy to be getting married. We’ll have the wedding in our yard, we don’t give a damn. 😂🙄

  9. I was no my way to my cousin wedding and I had this cute dress that was white and my older brother and sister were tell me to wear it and I was like no you can’t do that. My brother why I was like because it is disrespectful and he was like no it is not at my wedding I want everyone to wear white I was like that is different. Then we went to my cousin’s wedding i didn’t wear the white dress but when we got there were two people in white and one was the bride and the other was another family member and when I seen that other family member I was like oh my. I was honestly lost for words. I was think how you go to do that

  10. You guys are so annoying , how did she steer away from her first opinion, she said what she said and stuck by it . All she added in was that clearly the girl is bothered by her mom in law wearing white so if she’s bothered she should solve it , but if it was her she wouldn’t care. Y’all need to rewind and RE watch smh

  11. I am sorry but wearing white to a wedding is asking for trouble. I think you sometimes have to scale back for people. And even if you look amazing in white don’t do it. Let the bride have her moment and you can shine any other time. Just be considerate. It’s not your day. I am sorry but I think it is selfish af

  12. When I got married, I didn't really care what my guests be wearing except of course them not be wearing their wedding gowns on my special day 😂 because I am more focused on the whole event hoping everything will turn out fine. Plus I had more important things to think about at that time than what my guests be lookin like. I mean for me, it's kinda rude to tell my guest to not wear certain colors to attend my wedding though..thats just me..

  13. Lol when I was 8 my aunt and uncle got married and I had a white dress..


  14. I did and they ask me and a week before they changed the color after I brought my own dress she didn’t wear white so what’s the biggie it’s just clothes and that’s not what or who you’re marrying ok what you put in what you get out not marrying your mother in law ok

  15. My only thing is like, there are THOUSANDS of different colors and out of ALL of them the mother-in-law is really going to choose a white shade for someone ELSE'S wedding? I'd probably say something just because it's literally one day that I want for myself and my groom, and if it makes you uncomfortable you should always say something.

  16. Lol. I love how if the situation was the mother-in-law help paying for the wedding, she then gets to wear whatever she wants. XD

  17. I love loni so much but her outfit reminds me of Yurio… that’s a good thing I just see him in her outfit lol

  18. I honestly didnt know you werent supposed to wear white to a wedding until watching this video. Maybe she doesnt know. But at the same time… shes your mother in law. Shes not gonna outshine you. Your probably younger with a better body anyways. Why is this bothering you so much?

  19. My mother in law wore off white to my wedding. It was really weird. But i shouldve known that my mother in law would move in with us.

  20. Honestly, no one's upstaging the bride anyway AND if someone's trying to steal the spotlight, she's just going to come off looking stupid and pathetic.

  21. Adrienne obviously would care. Her first expression says it all. Once gain going with the table a she is part of the crowd… ugh

  22. I honestly did not know. Well! That because I am from another culture. I'm still learning the American culture.

  23. i want my future wedding themed. soo… color doesn't matter, but the theme does. I'd be bridezilla for the theme. No Party Poopers. No excuses I'll have extras.

  24. The mother n law may be old school and never even heard of this stupid “rule”.Talk to her……. could go good or bad.💁🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♂️

  25. After telling my fiancé’s parents my bridesmaids are wearing a malice pink color. Since I was wearing the color to lunch, I pointed to my dress.

    My mother in law said she was planning to wear that color too. I felt upset inside. I suggested she wear a dark red wine dress (similar to my own mother) so both could be recognized. I want her to look beautiful but, I think it’s strange especially for pictures.

    I told my mom and she said, “Don’t worry, I’ll take care of it.” Lol

    Our wedding is in over a year. I hope I can find something else for her to wear as a compromise.

  26. For sure my mom in law won't wear white on my wedding , but if she want , i don't care because I Love Her 💖

  27. Why are some of you so aggressive… It doesn't matter, you're the one getting married and all eyes will be on YOU, not your MOTHER IN LAW FFS.

  28. I don’t care if someone wears white to my wedding a) because that’s not in my culture b) there not going to look better or equal to me even if they came in wearing the same dress

  29. That is nothing my mother in law wore a tiara and bigger than mine 🤷. I tried not to care but it bothered me

  30. I don't care. Don't wear white to my wedding. Don't wear off white. Don't wear eggshell. Don't wear cream. I will have security. You will be escorted out. This will be on my invitations. Try me.

  31. Asian wedding is different. Wedding dress is made with bling bling to the maximum it is hard for other bitches to upstage the bride. And in general we do not have a dress code to attend the wedding.

  32. Nah I’d be pissed I’ve been dreaming of my wedding day sense I was 5 years old…. my wedding is in 5 days if someone comes to my wedding wearing white or off white. (Cause my dress is off white) I will legit kick them out of my wedding. Disrespect me on my wedding down you ain’t never talking to me again. Period

  33. As someone who is PALE I will not be wearing strait white on my wedding day my dress is going to be an off white/cream color because of my complexion. So anyone saying they were wearing off white would be wearing a color really close to my dress, and I can't guarantee how I'd feel. Especially if I may bring it up and no one else felt the need to say anything. Because personally I'd expect my fiancee to jump in so I wouldn't have to say anything to their mother and that says a lot about them as a person.

  34. Nah. The wife shouldn't have had to say a word to her. The groom shoulda checked his momma on that 'cause that's mad disrespectful to the woman he plans on spendin his life with. I love my momma but what she NOT gon do is disrespect my future wife under any circumstances but especially her wedding day. I woulda told her no she can't wear that, she needs to apologize to my wife for causing her the stress of the possibility of her wearing that, until she gets that apology no need to phone, or come by our house, and even after she gets that apology you still can't come to the wedding 'cause that's mad disrespectful and you were fully aware of that. Mother or not, people need to have consequences for their actiond

  35. Adrienne’s right that the mother probably doesn’t like her anyways because this is straight out of JLo’s ‘Monster-in-Law’ 😂

  36. I love Gene's honesty, the Bride should not feel intimidated. Get into your beautiful strikingly white wedding gown and it will surely fully over glow her.

  37. Wear white I don't care lol. Mostly because I, the bride, probably won't wear white anyway. I hate the color and it's so boring. I rather wear a black, red, purple, or pink dress

  38. For me this is a no. Its a respect thing. She may wear any other color whatever evem the skimpiest outfit she can find with 7 inch heels. BUT PLEASE do not steal from this beautiful moment of love. You aren’t just stealing joy from me but you are selfishly taking it from your son too.

  39. But.. it is just a colour? Because if you married the man, you must love his family. I don't mind wearing the same color with my mom.

  40. Mother in law wearing white or close to white on your wedding day shows she wants to have matriarchal rule over your marriage

  41. I think I’d go for a silver dress for my wedding dress, mermaid style, if I ever even get married lmao. 😏

  42. I had a Autumn themed wedding.
    Bridesmaids in cranberry my mom in navy blue.
    I offered to go dress shopping with my mother in law, she refused asked her to get a dress within the fall color scheme.
    SHE BUYS A LILAC COLORED DRESS… I went to the store and checked, the dress also came in hunter green and brown.
    I said NOTHING to her. Enjoyed my day.

  43. My thing is about respect if I see someone in white on my wedding day I will be very upset but I won’t let it ruin my day. It’s just rude and disrespectful if someone does that without the brides permission or if the bride didn’t request for it.

  44. "What if
    The Mother-in-law
    Is helping
    To pay for the

  45. Imagine you worrying about a guest to YOUR wedding over dressing you and looking better. Are they really being extra or is the bride just not enough 🤔

  46. My dad said no not if bride has been married like a gazillion times who trying to lie to maybe mother in law is giving you a hint hint here comes the bride all dress in white yeah right mother in law is basically laughing at your face or trying to make war if she's old school so red flags there. Think about things like what you are wearing but don't let people feel like they can control your life.

  47. It’s trashy to try to do that. The mother in law clearly doesn’t like the bride and is trying to make that statement. The groom needs to get his mother.

  48. I went to a friend's wedding where she wore an ivory fitted mermaid wedding dress and one of the guests who was recently a newlywed came in an off white maxi fitted dress. everyone thought it was so rude and a couple guests suggested she should leave

  49. Adrienne….you went on and on and on when talking about someone in a bridal party having a new tattoo. You said you cared…a lot!

  50. Do people on purpose ignore the point of something . Is everyone's comprehension poor? Adrienne stick to your opinion wain wain wain…

  51. I wore white to a wedding about 2 months ago. But it was acceptable because it was a tribal wedding ( yes my whole family is Native American ) and it was also nightmare before Christmas theme.

  52. adrienne did not change her opinion, she just clarified that clearly if it bothers you then talk to your mother in law about it

  53. Ads advise was all over the place, if its for traditional reasons its oke but alsow ur marrying for the wrong reasons but alsow if it upsets u, u should voice ur opinion

  54. My mother in law and a cousin tried to wear white. My dress was all lace and had little sparkles on it. Very simple. My cousins dress looked alot like my dress just short. I was like no you cant wear white to my wedding are you crazy. My mother in law brought both the dress I okayed and the dress she wanted to wear. Luckily there was a stain on the white dress so she couldn't wear it. So i was lucky in that.

  55. When I got married my mom wore a white with light silver tint dress. Personally, I had no issue with it. It's not like my mom ever got to dress up like that, I was her last child getting married, that she wanted an actual mother-of-the-bride dress & finally had the money to blow on something to look nice for one day I was happy for her.

    Truthfully I preferred my mom dressing up like that over the JcPenny's big flower everyday dress my MIL wore. Here my parents were dressed to the hilt & it seemed like hubby's parents couldn't be bothered to dress nicely for the day.

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